A few thoughts.
I love to talk. Being vulnerable helps me heal. Sharing is caring after all, right?
Don’t sweat it...
“GURLLLLL, you ain’t getting any younger!!”
Have you ever been subjected to this (not so) subtle or unwarranted piece of advice? You know, followed after intrusive questions like...are you married yet? do you have kids yet? you must not want kids?
Yah, me too. 🙋🏼♀️
Here’s what I know. You can only control how YOU react in these situations. People thoughtlessly say shit without even realizing the consequences of how their words land on others. Even if they love you. In fact we all do it. There I said it.
So, I need you to forgive them. No, I won’t shut my mouth...it’s the only way. Try explaining your truth if you feel comfortable (or if they are willing to hear it) and see how it opens their eyes. Full disclosure it may not. Sometimes we just need to talk about the hard things.
Truth is, they mean well, I know it doesn’t FEEL that what but it’s true. Our society promotes a shame shit storm. People question what they don’t understand and unfortunately we are still fighting lots of pressure to “make the right choices” so we can “live like we should”.
Don’t buy into it.
Topics like infertility, divorce, sexuality, marriage, children...and beyond are not topics of small talk. They are deeply personal issues that are different for each person. If you truly want to learn about a person ASK about their life and be willing to stick around for the whole story.
ALSO...you are NEVER to old...don’t limit yourself to your age, it’s just a number, k?