A few thoughts.
I love to talk. Being vulnerable helps me heal. Sharing is caring after all, right?
Hey babe! Do you minimize your experiences? Your work? Your passions? Your trauma? Your worth? Your life?
Do you speak (or not speak at all) about things that are important to you as if they aren’t? As if it all just happens by accident? Or it’s no big deal?
Do you dim your light in the name of not wanting to boast or be “extra”?
Listen to me right now...
STOP 🛑 THAT HUH-NEY! .
What, who, why you love your life matters. In fact in inspires other to do the same. Sharing your wins shows others that the mountain you climbed...can be climbed.
My challenge for us all...work on being so authentically YOU that it inspires others to be so authentically THEM.
We are different. We are powerful in our own ways. We matter. All of us.
Stop minimizing...today. If you have anyone in your life that “makes you feel like” you need to minimize yourself...I’d bet my life that THEY are the ones who NEED to watch you rise the most.
Obedience is the sister of faith...follow her she knows best.
This phrase is equal parts magical and devastating. It reminds us how little control we have over the journey of our lives.
Raise your hand if your faith has ever been tested?! You aren’t alone, friend. Welcome to the club.
I get it, walking blindly into something you have ZERO guarantees on...well, its why most people don’t do it. But God. So, do it anyway. .
Walking with obedience sounds good until we realize what it truly means. Friends let me be clear, we aren’t “walking in faith” if we are trying to control the path. Better yet WE DO NOT CONTROL THE PATH.
Listen babe, I know it’s scary to change your life. What if I fail? What if all the awful things I can come up with, actually happen? What if...??
Truth is. You might fail. You might fall hard. You might get your heartbroken.
BUT who you become ALONG THE WAY is EVERYTHING! You are really one faith-filled, obedient decision away from a totally different life.
So...take the trip, start the “side-business”, refresh that blog, move to a brand new city, seek help for why you are “trying” for a baby and it’s “just not happening”, become your own boss...dream out loud AND THEN say NO to anything that isn’t serving the mission.
How are you going to practice obedience today? I’m starting with a fresh bible study...you can check it out =====> It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered...
Let me know if you do?? Or share your favorite practices with me!!
You’ve got this babe!
There’s no pain too small to be acknowledged...
No loss too early to be honored. We are all just trying to get by, doing the best we can. Day in day out. Women are warriors you know. 💕
I memorialized our IVF losses recently and it was so cathartic.
Beautiful. Bold. Brave. Those are the words on repeat.
Infertility is hard. Wanting to be a Momma and not knowing why we keep getting “overlooked” is a cruel reality that I know all to well. NO MATTER THE STAGE.
Technicality doesn’t play into this AT ALL my darling friends.
Read that again.
Had no issues getting pregnant, but can’t seem to stay that way? It’s ok.
Haven’t started IUI OR IVF. It’s ok.
Haven’t decided to finally make that family planning appt? It’s ok.
Want more but feel selfish sharing because you have friends that have none? It’s ok.
Waiting for your babes across the ocean but feel like it’s a pipe dream? It’s ok.
Don’t know if you’ll be a good Mom so you are burying the idea for now but feel the clock ticking? It’s ok.
Choosing adoption, surrogate, or a donor? It’s ok.
Suffered loss over and over but keep getting back up and starting to wonder why? It’s ok.
Infertility ruined your marriage? It’s ok.
Can’t afford treatments? It’s ok.
Want to be the best Aunt around but kids just aren’t for you? It’s ok.
Waiting on...FILL IN YOUR BLANK.
LISTEN GIRL, It’s ok...to grieve each stage. In fact you must.
Grief doesn’t play favorites. Your loss belongs in the same camp as all the others. No matter if you feel it’s not “bad enough”...IT IS.
I’ve been guilty myself of saying “what we went through wasn’t as hard as you...” or “I never heard a heart beat, so it’s not the same”... But the truth is...it is. It all cuts deep. Waking up at 24-34-44 and waiting your turn to be a Mother is a battle that NONE of us prepared for. I see you. I love you. I honor your pain today and everyday. No matter if you’ve gotten your rainbow 🌈 baby or IVF, BFP...or decided that kids aren’t for you.
You matter. Leave that period where it belongs.
Take a moment to celebrate yourself today and your beautiful bodies, your incredible resilience. How you’ve found joy in the journey (because I pray you can) AND let me leave you with this...Please always share your own truth, without apologizing or comparing. Your story matters and you never know how you’ll make an impact, until you let it fly.
You’ve got this babe!